I recently went to an ocean beach. There I watched a young man standing at the tide’s edge, trying to be still. Every few moments, it appeared he was off balance, he would adjust his stance, only to have to take another stance in less than a minute.
The problem was, the tide was taking sand away from under his feet. His momentarily stable position was undermined as soon as he took it. He would have had a more stable position if he kept moving.
That has something to say to writers about the critics around them. The critics are like the tide. They undermine you every time you take a stand. The only way to beat them is to take them with a grain of salt (water) and keep going.
I’m reminded of something one of my mentors said to me years ago. It wasn’t entirely new, but it pertains. When was talking about winners and losers, he said winners reach the goals they set for themselves. Other writers, James and Jongleward defined winners like this:
“Winners are independent and act autonomously. They know their limits. For winners, it is not the most important to achieve something, but to be authentic. They see the others and reality, as they are and have no illusions. They admit their needs and feelings, even when these might sometimes be contradictory. They can allow themselves to make mistakes sometimes and to admit these: they admits (sic) their guilt. They can even lose their self-confidence temporarily without losing belief in themselves.
Winners are independent in their judgment and accept responsibility for their lives. They live in the now, without denying their past or being blind to the future. They accept what the present offers, joy or pain, society or loneliness, physical or spiritual pleasure.”